How To Live Life With No Regrets

Are you living with regret? 
Have you done things in the past you wish you would have done differently?

Do these thoughts sound familiar to you:

How I wish I hadn't broken up with him.
What a bad decision that was.
If only I had spent more time with my kids.
Now it is too late.

Regret is a sad and negative emotion. 

Even though we know we cannot change the past, it still pulls at our heartstrings.

If we don't know how to deal with regret in positive ways, it
can negatively affect the rest of our lives. It can be extremely
difficult to move on in life when we spend our time regretting
the past.

The good news is that there are things you can do to help
prevent regret in the first place. 

If you should find yourself feeling regretful, there are also ways to overcome those
feelings. 

Let Your Priorities Guide You

One of the best ways to make decisions you won't regret is to
let your priorities guide you. Whenever you are faced with a
decision, big or small, determine which option fits best with
what is most important to you in the big picture.

The option that is most closely in alignment with your priorities,
beliefs, and values will likely be the best decision for YOU.

The key words are: best decision for you.

Someone else may choose a different option, but you don't
need to worry about what others think is the best. Their
opinion comes from their own wants and needs.

If you choose what is best for someone else, you will be the
one who regrets it. But if you choose according to your own
priorities, regret is rarely a result. When you use this strategy to
make decisions, it makes living with your decisions a whole lot
easier!

Even if things do not go exactly as you planned, you can still be
confident that you made the right decision for you based on
your own life needs.

How To Determine Your Priorities

Many times a decision is complicated by several factors that
you might consider important. Of course, each option leans a
different way, which causes confusion and uncertainty. So
then, what do you do?

Follow this 3-step strategy to cut out the confusion, discover
your priorities, and make decisions you can trust:

1. Reflect. Think about what is most important to you and write
them down.
Your spouse, family, and other loved ones
Your faith
Your dreams and goals
Your ethics and morals
Your health
Your work
Other things of importance to you

2. Arrange. Put them in order with the most important items at
the top.

Some of your most important priorities will change at
different times in your life. 
For example, if you are going
to college to get a degree, completing your education
may be more important than your part-time job during
this time. However, when you are the sole provider for
your family, your job is one of your top priorities.

3. Refer to your priority list when making choices. Gear your
decisions toward the option that provides the most
advantages for the items at the top of your list whenever
possible. Go with the decision that aids the higher priority
over the lower one.

For example, when you are faced with a choice
between picking up junk food on the way home from
work, or taking an extra 20 minutes to make something
healthy at home, choose the healthier option. While it
means a little more time to cook something healthy,
your health is always one of your top priorities!

Things like going for a walk with your kids become easy
choices because this activity satisfies two priorities: your
health and spending quality time with your kids.

You will rarely regret making choices according to your higher
priorities. On the other hand, if you should give into the feeling
of the moment, like when you want junk food or would rather
take a nap than spend time with your family. There may be
times in the future when you regret these poor decisions.

Live By The Golden Rule

Another good way to prevent poor choices that lead to
regret is to live by the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you
would have them do unto you.
Treating others with the same thoughtfulness that you would like to
receive yourself keeps you from doing or saying inconsiderate
things that you will be sorry about later.

Get in the habit of following this rule in everything you do.
When you have a disagreement with someone, you are more
likely to search for a solution that benefits both of you, rather
than resorting to anger or personal attacks. When this
happens, no one wins!

When you take the Golden Rule to heart, not only will you
prevent regret, but you will also find that people tend to
reciprocate your kindness, making your life more enjoyable all
around!

Become Action Oriented

A lot of times, what we regret is not so much what we did, but
what we did not do. Establishing an action-oriented mindset will
strengthen your decision skills, too, because your new mindset
will help you make decisions that encourage action!

Focus on making the right decision based on your priorities,
then trust yourself to do what needs to be done to make your
decision a reality. This level of trust will boost your confidence
and enable you to achieve your goals with ease.

Here are some tips to help you develop an action-oriented
mindset:

1. Avoid procrastination. When you put off doing something
you know you should do, it will only increase the anxiety and
tension in the hours leading up to the inevitable deadline.
You will regret dilly dallying unless you make it a habit to
handle your tasks appropriately.

? If you are putting off telling someone something, just
take a deep breath and begin. If you start the
conversation with pleasantries, it may help you ease
into what you have to say.

If you are procrastinating on a project, just getting
started is often the only thing that holds you back. Start
with something easy so you can build the momentum
you need to move forward, faster than ever.

If you are not taking action because a task is too
difficult, divide the task into small, easily achievable
mini-goals. Once you do, you will have a reasonable plan
and you will be less likely to get overwhelmed.

2. Plan your work and work your plan. Keep a planner and
make a daily to-do list. Refer to your list often and cross out
your tasks as you complete them so you can see yourself
making progress all day long.

Make your schedule flexible enough to give yourself
time to handle unexpected distractions. Practice
immediately taking care of the things that come up
and then getting quickly back to your list.

3. Seek solutions to your challenges. So often we let an
obstacle in our path stop us from pursuing the life we desire,
only to regret it later. With an action-oriented mindset,
challenges are only bumps in the road. When a challenge
arises, immediately start looking for viable ways around it,
then take action to continue toward your goal.

Take Advantage of Opportunities

Are you always out when opportunity comes knocking?
Learning to recognize good opportunities and taking
advantage of them right away can also prevent regret. How
many times have you berated yourself for missing a window of
opportunity?

One of the best and simplest ways to help yourself
recognize valuable new ideas is to keep an open mind. Listen
to other ideas and then apply them to your own
situation. Ask yourself if there a way you can use this idea to
bring you closer to your goals or make your life better.
Just recognizing the opportunity, however, is not enough. Be
sure to use your new action-oriented mindset to take
immediate action. If you spend too long simply thinking about
it, your window is likely to close. Carpe Diem! Seize the day!

Make Good Memories

You can avoid a lot of regret simply by living on purpose!
What does that mean? It means that you choose a life of joy,
then actively pursue that life. Spend your time making the
memories that you want to have!

Would you rather have memories of work, boredom and
wasting away your life or joyful memories of cherished time
with your spouse and kids? Would you rather fill your mind with
memories of sit-com reruns or lively times pursuing your
dreams?

Surely no one has ever gone to their grave wishing that they
had spent more time working or watching TV! These are simply
not the things that matter the most when you look back on
your life.

The secret to avoiding regret is to do what matters most.

What do you want to do in your life? Do you want to travel?
Then do what it takes to bring in the extra income to pay for it!
Do you want to be multi-lingual? Then start learning another
language today!

In other words, take action to create the life you want. Do not
spend your time bemoaning your current situation and wishing
for more. Do something every day to bring the life you desire
into your present and exhibit the qualities you desire. Sooner
than you realize, your dreams will become your reality, and
you will have thoroughly enjoyed the journey, too!

Eliminating Past Regrets  

When you harbor resentment about the past, it only hurts you.
Nothing good comes from regret or the negative emotions
that go along with it.
Here are some techniques that can help you overcome your
feelings of regret:

1. Let bygones be bygones. Things that happened in the
past cannot be changed, no matter how hard we try, or
how much time we spend wishing that they had
happened differently. If there is a way to make amends,
do it, then move on with your life. Focus on your present,
look forward to your future, and leave the past in the past.

2. Live in the moment. When you live in the moment, you are
fully focused on the now. You feel the pleasures,
sensations, and joys of this moment and appreciate all of
them. The more you practice this technique, the more you
can tune out everything and embrace this moment. Your
days are a parade of moments, so you should fully live
each one of them, one at a time.

3. Use affirmations. Affirmations can help you change your
mindset from feeling sad about the past to accepting it so
you can live a more joyful life. They�re positive statements
that you can repeat to yourself every time a regretful
thought presents itself.

Here are some examples of affirmations:

I let go of my regret to make room for joy.
I am happy with who I am now and look forward to a
joyous future.
I live each day with gratitude for the precious gift of life.

4. Meditate. Meditation helps you envision your life without
regret. When meditating, feel the good feelings of a carefree
life. Breathe in freshness and breathe out regret. See
the negative feelings dissipate in the clear air around you �
gone forever, never to return!

A life free from regret is a joyful life indeed!

Strive to use these strategies and techniques to keep regret
from raising its ugly head in your path so you can enjoy your
journey. 
It is going to be a wild and wonderful ride!